I’ll begin with honesty. Falling isn’t a beautiful thing. Have you had those daydreams where you trip and are immediately jerked awake before hitting the ground? One time I had one of those during an exam in high school, and I quickly pretended that I had remembered an answer (smooth, I know). This closely relates to falling for someone, no one prepares you for the fall. You either keep falling or are jerked awake.
Let me break it down for you a little bit. There are two kinds of ‘falling’. The first is falling for one’s personality not appearance. The second is falling for one’s appearance, not their personality. As a lady seeking to attract his attention so that he falls for you just as you have fallen for him, here are a few things to consider.
Falling type No. 1: Attracting Him with Personality
If you want him to fall for your personality and not necessarily your appearance. Present yourself well—hold your head up when you walk, and be confident in your skin (do not change its colour). Embrace your style while doing things that make you happy and comfortable. DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE. “Confidence is attractive,” but even shyness is (for some). Treat yourself with love. Then, and only then will you see guys falling for you because YOU have fallen for you.
If no one seems drawn to you, take a moment to reflect on yourself. There are toxic traits that we carry along under the guise of ‘self-confidence’ that do more harm than good for our romantic lives. For instance, some individuals believe that whatever they believe is right, should be right for everyone. If I think RnB is a great musical genre, then everyone else should. Such people often do not stop to think twice about their decisions, actions or opinions. Sometimes you end up loving yourself too much that you have no love to give to the other party. So embrace self-love, but be open to accommodate others while you love yourself.
Falling type No. 2: Attracting Him with Appearance
Attraction often begins with visual appeal. However, focusing solely on looks can lead to superficial connections. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, true and lasting attraction runs deeper.
Yes, we see before we hear, we appreciate the visual before acknowledging the mental—love at first sight. Sometimes we coerce the eyes to see. If a woman chooses to be intentional with her appearance, then she will undoubtedly have eyes following her. Men are visual, so in most cases, this isn’t hard to accomplish.
That said, be mindful of what kind of attention you’re attracting. Expose some skin, and you might turn heads, but at what cost? Literally a crash course to being a cheap Kampala girl who bags men like a thief swallowing gold coins found at a prime minister’s home—so that even if caught, no one would know. This begs the question: what kind of men do you want to attract?
If you want men to fall just for your body, you’ll likely attract those with a very low calibre—men who see you as nothing more than a temporary thrill. Women who seek attention through their bodies are prone to attracting horny men who care about only one thing: to use them and dump them—“Why do I keep attracting guys that ONLY want sex!”
Falling in love is thrilling, fueled by those feel-good hormones it produces. Falling is also a risk one must be willing to take in the hopes that they will be caught before ground level by the right individual.
Leave a comment if you have experienced the thrill of falling.
PS flowers wither and die.
Read also; How to Impress Just Any Man: Ladies, Do these and He’s all Yours!
Written by Precious G. Aloyo
